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Kindred Place, formerly the Exchange Club Family Center, is dedicated to providing resources and support for families dealing with anger and violence. It is our mission to break the cycle of abuse and build peaceful, kindred communities.

Kindred365 is a blog series that offers daily insights from Kindred Place. Check back every day for a new piece of advice, encouragement or tips to help build healthy relationships and peaceful homes. 

For more information, visit kindred-place.org.


December 31, 2019

An abuser doesn’t “play fair.” An abuser uses fear, guilt, shame and intimidation to wear you down and keep you under their control. Breaking out of this cycle can feel impossible, but help is available. Taking steps toward peace starts with talking to someone you trust and opening up about your experience.


December 30, 2019

Abusive relationships may involve accusations, blame-shifting, isolation, pressure and manipulation. If you notice any of these warning signs in your relationship, it’s time to consider seeking professional help.


December 29, 2019

The economic impact family violence has on victims is not something to ignore. People across the world miss work and lose their jobs due to reasons stemming from abuse. Understanding the complex nature of abuse and all the ways it manifests can help you have more empathy and understanding for people you care about. 


December 28, 2019

The number of children who are exposed to intimate partner violence each year is alarming. The effects family violence has on children can be detrimental to their future. If you know a child who has witnessed abuse, getting them help early on is extremely important.


December 27, 2019

When trying to de-escalate a tense situation, try to avoid calling the other person hurtful names. Addressing someone by their actual name shows that you respect them, and this can help diffuse the situation.


December 26, 2019

Knowing the facts and statistics about family violence is the first step toward standing up for its survivors. Conducting your own research can inspire you to have a conversation with a victim of abuse and do your part in providing help.


December 25, 2019

Learning to recognize the times that you tend to feel angry, such as times of the day, or days of the week can help you begin to de-escalate your feelings and maintain control.


December 24, 2019

Abuse can lead to long-term mental health problems, such as PTSD and anxiety. If you've experienced abuse in the past and are struggling, ask someone for help. Experts are there to guide you through any obstacle you might be facing in life. You don't have to fight this alone.


December 23, 2019

The prevalence of intimate partner violence is high among both men and women. Odds are, someone you know has experienced abuse or is currently being abused. While nothing can make this traumatic experience easier, reassuring someone that they are not alone can be comforting.


December 22, 2019

The reasons for staying in an abusive relationship are complex. Have empathy and understanding for those who decide to stay in the relationship. They might be feeling threatened or afraid of what will happen if they leave. Sticking by their side and trusting their decisions is important to their healing, even when it might be hard to understand. 


December 21, 2019

Children who witness abuse are prone to developing behavior problems later in life. If your child or a child you know has witnessed family violence, help them find healing through therapy that is appropriate for their age. Getting to the root of the problem early on is important to their development and well-being.


December 20, 2019

Domestic violence does not need to be physical to be considered abuse. It can occur in many forms, including physical, emotional, verbal, sexual and economic abuse. Knowing all the ways abuse can manifest can help you recognize unusual behavior in your friends and family.


December 19, 2019

If you’re a victim of abuse, remember that nothing you can say or do makes you deserving of what has happened to you. Abuse is not your fault. Abusers bear sole responsibility for their actions.


December 18, 2019

Each of us has the power to ask for help and move toward healing. If your family is hurting because of trauma or abuse, help is available to you through our family at Kindred Place.


December 17, 2019

It can be hard to admit or identify family violence. If you feel like you might be a victim of abuse, tell someone you trust. Letting someone know what you are experiencing can help free you from the cycle of shame and fear.  


December 16, 2019

Many domestic violence victims feel alone and confused as a result of the abuse. They can feel as if there is nowhere to turn and that no one will believe them if they seek help. If you know someone who is being abused, you can help them know they are not alone and that you believe their story.


December 15, 2019

Understanding what family violence is can help you identify an unhealthy relationship in your life or the life of someone close to you. Domestic violence occurs when a person uses physical violence, threats, intimidation, isolation, stalking, emotional abuse, sexual abuse or economic abuse to control another partner in a relationship.


December 14, 2019

Never assume that you know what is best for a victim of abuse. Remind them that everyone deserves to have healthy and safe relationships, and you’re concerned about their wellbeing.


December 13, 2019

Asking survivors why they stay in an abusive relationship implies that violence is the victim’s fault. Instead, ask how you can help support them in safety and happiness.


December 12, 2019

Listen to survivors and believe them when they are telling their story. Letting your friend or family member know you care and are willing to listen may be the best help you can offer.


December 11, 2019

Start conversations with the children in your life about the important components of healthy relationships. Through your own actions and respect for healthy boundaries, you can lead your family in non-violent conflict resolution.


December 10, 2019

It’s not easy for an abuser to stop abusive behavior, and it requires a serious decision to change. With help from people they trust and professional support, abusers must make the choice to change and stay committed to living a new life. Know that you are not alone and it is possible to break free from the cycle.


December 9, 2019

People of all genders can be survivors and perpetrators of family violence. Domestic violence has an effect on the community as a whole, and everyone must be part of the solution to break the cycle.


December 8, 2019

When a person who causes harm uses hurtful words to put down their partner or family member, it can be very traumatizing and result in depression or anxiety. You can help by supporting them and reminding them of their true worth. A simple word of encouragement goes a long way.


December 7, 2019

Many abusers cling to power or self-control. One way you can help a friend or family member in an abusive relationship is by empowering them to make their own decisions and reminding them of their worth.


December 6, 2019

If your child is expressing concerns or asking for help, take the time to listen to them. Accept what they are saying to you and be supportive. Even if you don’t agree with them, judging or disregarding their feelings can make them feel even worse and discourage them from communicating with you in the future.


December 5, 2019

When recovering from an abusive relationship, don’t pressure yourself to put a time limit on your pain. Everyone deals with trauma differently and your story is not comparable to someone else’s. It’s ok to feel pain and ask for support.


December 4, 2019

When children witness the abuse of power and physical violence in the home, they are likely to believe that this kind of behavior is acceptable. Children who experience family violence may have a hard time maintaining peaceful relationships if they aren’t offered help.


December 3, 2019

Emotional pain can linger long after you leave an abusive relationship. During this time, know that you are not alone and surround yourself with friends, family members and counselors who can help guide you through these feelings.


December 2, 2019

If someone you love is being abused, your instinct might tell you to save them from the relationship. Unfortunately, it isn’t always that easy. There are many reasons why people are scared to leave an abusive relationship and it can be a very difficult situation for a victim. Try your best to be available as a listening ear or to help them find professional support.


December 1, 2019

If kids are told over and over again that they are stupid or unloved, it is very difficult for them to overcome these feelings as they grow up. Choosing to talk to your child with an uplifting tone makes them feel valued and empowers them to succeed.


November 30, 2019

Instead of demanding your own way, talk about conflict and work toward a solution with your partner. When you insist on being right, it is belittling to the other person in the relationship. Finding a resolution together promotes trust and security.


November 29, 2019

Physical injury is a more apparent sign of abuse, but the emotional and psychological consequences of abuse are not as easily noticed. If you suspect a loved one is being abused, pay attention to behavior changes like anxiety or depression to know when you should step in and help.


November 28, 2019

Realizing that you have been abused can be a very painful process. It’s important to acknowledge what has happened to you, but you don’t have to face the pain alone. Reaching out to friends, family or a counselor can help you heal and break free from what you’re experiencing.


November 27, 2019 

If you know someone who is being abused, it may be hard to approach them. Begin by realizing that your friend or relative might not see the situation clearly. Try to approach them in a way that is caring and understanding in order to let them know you care about their safety and happiness.


November 26, 2019

When someone is voicing frustration, remember to listen with empathy. This intentional act of listening demonstrates your attentiveness and understanding of what's being said.


November 25, 2019

It’s easy to hold anger in or explode all at once when you become frustrated. Learning techniques to safely express your anger helps meet your needs without hurting others.


November 24, 2019

Every relationship is a bit different, but there are common traits shared by all abusive relationships, most of which are the varying tactics used by abusers to gain and maintain power and control. 


November 23, 2019

Relationships are complicated, and when those around us are stressed, frustrated or angry, our brains respond with tension and fear. These emotions can be regulated and navigated in healthy ways, but it requires awareness, patience and participation from everyone involved.


November 22, 2019

Sometimes violence begins early on in a relationship, and other times, it takes months or even years to appear. Be on the lookout for behaviors such as jealousy, controlling tendencies, threats or intimidation.


November 21, 2019

It's important for parents to know how to navigate their anger so their children can reflect similar healthy conflict resolution skills.


November 20, 2019

Sometimes, it can be difficult for a child to verbalize their anger, so it can help to find alternative ways to express it. Consider having your child write out what makes them angry or drawing a picture of the thing that makes them upset. 


November 19, 2019

Anger triggers for children are often similar to those of adults and can include conflict with another child, not getting their way, rejection by peers, being bullied, being punished or scolded, and sickness or fatigue.


November 18, 2019

The first step in managing anger is to understand why you or your child get angry in the first place. Triggers for adults can include a child’s misbehavior, frustrating events like a traffic jam, stress caused by work, finances or family, disappointment, jealousy or resentment, and sickness or fatigue.


November 17, 2019

Breaking the cycle of violence in the home starts with awareness; awareness of ourselves, of others and of each unique relationship.


November 16, 2019

Creating healthy, non-violent conflict resolution habits involves a great amount of self-reflection. We all have to take ownership of what we’ve done in the past and make an intentional effort to improve.


November 15, 2019

Conflict is inevitable as long as people are unique and different from one another. These differences make relationships dynamic and beautiful. Sometimes, we just need a little extra help navigating the emotions that spring from these dynamics, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.


November 14, 2019

Children are extremely susceptible to picking up habits and tendencies from their parents. This is why it is so important to demonstrate healthy relationships and non-violent conflict resolution in the home.


November 13, 2019

Anger is normal and it is an energy that can help motivate us to accomplish goals. However, it’s important to recognize this emotion in the early stages to avoid over-reacting and lashing out with violent behavior.


November 12, 2019

Self-awareness is a tremendous tool when learning to deal with feelings of anger. If we can identify what makes us angry, when we tend to feel anger, what trigger words might set us off, etc., we can prepare alternative responses and avoid violent behavior.


November 11, 2019

Ending family violence in our community is much bigger than the relationship between one parent and one child, or between two intimate partners. While these pieces are vital to the solution, it also requires a shift in culture and thinking. We all have to be aware of our relationships and we all have to work toward peace collectively.


November 10, 2019

Restoring broken relationships requires courage and vulnerability. Sometimes, it can help to seek professional mediation or individual counseling to learn communication skills that can build trust and create safety within the relationship.


November 9, 2019

There is a deep connection between trust and anger that we often don't realize. Sometimes, the reason we feel angry is because someone has let us down or betrayed us. These feelings are not inherently wrong, but should also motivate us to seek help learning how to express our anger in healthy ways.


November 8, 2019

No matter where we are in our journey with family and relationships, we should always ask ourselves, "How can I be more compassionate, respectful and understanding when I engage with others?"


November 7, 2019

Sometimes, we can feel guilty when expressing anger, and it can be difficult to determine if we responded in a healthy way. Ask yourself, "Did I speak harshly or with understanding, loudly or calmly, disrespectfully or respectfully, critically or with encouragement, in a threatening/judgmental way or with a comforting tone?"


November 6, 2019

While it can be easy to look back at a situation with a clear head, it's even more important to maintain peace in the midst of your conversations and engagements.


November 5, 2019

When navigating feelings of anger and working toward healthy conflict resolution, be sure to listen, paraphrase what was said to you, demonstrate empathy and state your feelings in a calm manner along with the facts.


November 4, 2019

Non-violent conflict resolution is all about communication. Finding healthy ways to express anger, frustration, desire for change, etc. will ensure that violence stays out of the home and that relationships will be peaceful.


November 3, 2019

You are worth feeling safe and loved. There is nothing that you could have done to deserve a life of fear and abuse. Reach out for professional help if you are struggling with feelings of self-worth after experiencing family violence.


November 2, 2019

Moving forward from family violence is an unbelievably challenging task. It requires grieving a former way of life, and no matter how damaging that period was, change is hard to navigate. It is not unusual to feel lost and sad when transitioning out of an abusive relationship.


November 1, 2019

Those who are victims of violence in the home often struggle with immense shame. When interacting with a friend or family member who has been abused, be aware of what you say and how you say it. Most times, they need encouragement and reassurance that they do not have to live with that shame.


October 31, 2019

If you are impacted by family violence, it’s important to know that it is not your fault. You cannot wait for your abuser to stop abusing you. Often, they cannot stop without getting professional help.


October 30, 2019

Recognizing that you are being abused is difficult. It can be even more difficult to take action. Whether you need professional support or you need assistance leaving an abusive relationship, you are not alone.


October 29, 2019

If you suspect that someone you love may be a victim of abuse, know that they may not recognize these destructive patterns, particularly if they are psychological. Be sure they know that you care, and present your concerns in a gentle, loving way.


October 28, 2019

Psychological abuse can be difficult to recognize, as it doesn’t leave physical scars. However, this type of abuse can often be more impactful in the long run. It impacts your idea of self-worth, identity and trust. These core foundations are hard to repair once they are compromised. 


October 27, 2019

Some may not realize that witnessing family violence is a traumatic experience for a child or teen. Seeing or hearing a family member being threatened or harmed can negatively impact a child’s sense of safety and security, resulting in long-term consequences for brain development and emotional health.


October 26, 2019

Abuse can happen to all types of people, regardless of age, gender, race, economic or social status, or sexual orientation. And remember, abuse is never the victim’s fault. Help is always available at Kindred Place. If you need professional support, call us today.


October 25, 2019

Being able to trust yourself is an important part of trusting others. Being hurt by someone in the past may impact your ability to trust yourself and your own instincts. Know that you are not alone and there are resources available to help you navigate these feelings.


October 24, 2019

We demonstrate our trustworthiness through consistency in our actions. Whether it is a small action like being on time or a more significant action like respecting boundaries and keeping private information in confidence, the way we interact with our partner or child shows whether or not we are dependable. Learning these things in a relationship happens gradually, but requires consistency and patience.


October 23, 2019

Trust is so important when it comes to building strong, healthy relationships. In order to gain your partner’s trust, they need to feel safe, heard and valued. Be sure you are listening when they express their feelings to you, do not interrupt and respond with kindness.


October 22, 2019

Easy to say but hard to do, compromising is a major part of conflict resolution and any successful relationship. When you disagree about a decision, find a solution that can allow both of you to feel satisfied with the outcome.


October 21, 2019

In a healthy relationship, communication is key. When you can communicate effectively and can resolve conflicts successfully, you are strengthening a healthy, mature relationship.


October 20, 2019

Setting boundaries can be a helpful tool when learning how to resolve conflict without violence. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect, even during an argument. If your partner curses at you, calls you names or ridicules you, tell them to stop, and if they don’t, you may need to walk away and set a boundary that says you do not want to continue arguing. If you can’t express yourself without fear of retaliation, you may be experiencing abuse.


October 19, 2019

In a healthy relationship, both parties should have equal input and should never be afraid to express feelings. Occasional arguments and disagreements are normal, but how you choose to deal with your disagreements is what really matters.


October 18, 2019

Fixing problems inside the home is essential to fixing larger problems outside the home. Family violence continues in our community because we often choose to stay silent. As a society, we have to break the cycle of family violence by speaking up, offering safety for those impacted, and providing resources to help address the issue at its source.


October 17, 2019

In a healthy relationship, you make decisions together and hold each other to the same standard. In abusive relationships, partners feel that their desires and choices are more important than another person’s, deny that actions are abusive, and may try to place blame for any harm done. 


October 16, 2019

In a healthy relationship, you believe what your partner says, and you're honest with each other. In an abusive one, there is a lack of trust and honesty. Partners don’t believe each other, tell lies and falsely accuse each other of flirting or cheating.


October 15, 2019

Breaking the cycle of violence inside the home begins with awareness outside the home. 


October 14, 2019

Our Comprehensive Anger Management Program provides emotional regulation and/or life skills for children, teens and adults using evidence-based curriculum and crafted content for any age.


October 13, 2019

While family violence takes place behind closed doors, its effects impact the entire community. We can all play a part in identifying violence and breaking the cycle of abuse.


October 12, 2019

It is true that someone who exhibits violent behavior can change, but it takes a lot of intentional work and awareness. The very first step is to admit wholly what one has done and stopped making excuses for aggressive behavior. Then, the ongoing process of transformation can take place. One can then make amends, accept responsibility for those choices and begin replacing abusive behavior with respectful, supportive behavior.


October 11, 2019

Take note of the emotions you feel when interacting with your parent or partner. If you have feelings of fear, anxiety, stress or anger, it may be time to reach out for professional help.


October 10, 2019

If you are impacted by family violence, know that you are not alone, and you do not have to face this by yourself. You are worthy of love, compassion and security, and there are a number of resources available to you.


October 9, 2019

Family violence and abuse are not always physical. It can often be emotional, mental or verbal. If you have questions about whether you are facing abuse, contact a professional for support.


October 8, 2019

One in four women worldwide will experience domestic/dating violence in their lifetime, and those between the ages of 20 and 24 are at greatest risk. Education and awareness are the first steps of breaking the cycle in our community.


October 7, 2019

Even if children are not direct victims of family violence, they are often present when violence occurs in the home. Witnessing these events can severely impact their mental, emotional and even physical health, and it is best to seek professional support to ensure they can process this trauma in a safe environment.


October 6, 2019

If someone you know is impacted by violence in their home, show compassion and be as available as you can for support. Often, victims are afraid their friends and family will think they are weak or won't understand the situation. The best way to help is to show them that they are not alone.


October 5, 2019

Family violence is not exclusive to one race, class, religion or economic background. This is important to understand in order to be aware of violent behavior in your community, as well as to develop the empathy necessary to support someone who has been abused.


October 4, 2019

Teens who witness abuse may respond differently than younger children. They may act out by fighting with family members or skipping school. They may also engage in risky behaviors, such as using alcohol or drugs. They may have low self-esteem and have trouble making friends. It is crucial to get teens the professional support they need to navigate their experiences and build a healthy family environment in which they can feel safe.


October 3, 2019

Each person responds differently to abuse and trauma. Although many will probably never forget what they saw or experienced during the abuse, they can learn healthy ways to deal with their emotions and memories as they find healing.


October 2, 2019

Children who witness or are victims of abuse are at higher risk for health problems as adults, such as depression, anxiety, diabetes and heart disease. The sooner a child receives the right support, the better his or her chances are for becoming a mentally and physically healthy adult.


October 1, 2019

More than 15 million children in the United States live in homes in which violence has happened at least once. These children are at greater risk for repeating the cycle as adults by entering into abusive relationships or becoming abusers themselves. 


September 30, 2019

Anger is a natural emotion. If we try to ignore it, suppress it or cover it up, it can lead to an outburst. Once we realize we may have a problem expressing our anger in a healthy way, it can help to write about it, draw it out or talk to someone we trust about the root cause of our anger. Then, we can determine the best course of action to prevent violent behavior.


September 29, 2019

When feelings of anger arise, try to diffuse the situation before immediately reacting by counting to 10, taking five slow, deep breaths, going outside or taking a walk.


September 28, 2019

Family violence is minimized when people have access to tools and resources that help them navigate feelings of anger and frustration. Abusers need support to cope with their emotions and experiences in order to overcome violent behavior.


September 27, 2019

Witnessing unhealthy conflict in the home can have a tremendous impact on children. It's important to help children and young adults learn how to cope with their trauma. Getting to the root of their pain can prevent tragic outcomes from happening.


September 26, 2019

Family violence robs people of their fundamental right to maintain control over their own lives. Victims of abuse live in fear and isolation in the one place they should always feel safe, their home. With a community of support, those who are impacted can find their way back to safety and back to control.


September 25, 2019

Children who witness or are the victims of violence in their home may learn to believe that violence is a reasonable way to resolve conflict between people. Ending family violence starts by breaking the cycle.


September 24, 2019 

Anger can be caused by a number of factors, including stress, loss, insecurity or depression. In order to ensure you are dealing with these emotions in a healthy way, it may be worth exploring a few of these contributors with a professional, a trusted family member or close friend.


September 23, 2019

Sometimes, it can help to keep a log of recent occasions during which you felt angry. Explore what happened, what the issue was, how you felt and what the results were. It’s also helpful to think through occasions during which you were able to control your anger. How did you control it? What did you do or say to diffuse the situation? These practices can help prevent future instances of uncontrolled anger.


September 22, 2019

When anger is expressed in healthy ways, it can be a change agent. It can help people problem-solve rather than stagnate. Anger can move people to work through emotions and forgive rather than become bitter. However, it is crucial to find healthy ways to express anger.


September 21, 2019

Education and awareness are key players in breaking the cycle of abuse in families. It takes a community to intervene, provide resources and offer support for friends and family that have encountered family violence.


September 20, 2019

Victims of family violence are often in desperate need of support, community and compassion. Offer a listening ear, and understand that their decision to stay or leave an abusive situation is theirs, and there may be multiple factors that you do not understand.


September 19, 2019

Family violence is not only physical. Psychological abuse involves isolation from others, excessive jealousy, control of his or her activities, verbal aggression, intimidation through the destruction of property, harassment or stalking, threats of violence and constant belittling and humiliation.


September 18, 2019

Some studies suggest that children who witness violence at home also display signs of damaged social development. Some children lose the ability to feel empathy for others. Others feel socially isolated, unable to make friends as easily due to social discomfort or confusion over what is acceptable.


September 17, 2019

Every child has the right to grow up safe from harm, especially within their own family. Violence in the home shatters a child’s basic right to feel safe and secure in the world, and the only way to break the cycle is to address both the effects on children and the behavior in adults.


September 16, 2019

As many as 275 million children worldwide are exposed to violence in the home. There is a common link between domestic violence and child abuse. Among victims of child abuse, 40 percent report domestic violence in the home.


September 15, 2019

Research shows that children who are exposed to violence in the home may have difficulty learning and limited social skills, as well as exhibit violent, risky or delinquent behavior, or suffer from depression or severe anxiety later in life. It is more important than ever to break the cycle of family violence.


September 14, 2019

A relationship that is built consistently over time with trust and respect can help you see a situation from the other person's point-of-view. 


September 13, 2019

Another technique that helps break the cycle of violent behavior is to relax intentionally. Developing mindfulness techniques will help you remove yourself from the initial emotional response. It's important to remember to take care of yourself so that you can stay in a healthy frame of mind. Regular exercise, sleep and a healthy diet will help you maintain balance.


September 12, 2019

Empathy can be a powerful tool to prevent violent behavior in a moment of anger. If another person is the source of your anger, try to see the situation from his or her perspective. Be objective here. Everyone makes mistakes, and it is through mistakes that people learn how to improve.


September 11, 2019

Interrupting the cycle of anger can be an effective way to create new, healthy habits. Consider the facts of the situation to keep your emotions in check. Look at what you can observe about the person or situation, not what you're inferring about someone's motivations or intentions. Does this situation deserve your attention? And is your anger justified here?


September 10, 2019

When you decide to take a step toward healing, let the important people in your life know about the changes that you're trying to make. They can motivate and support you when you fall back into old behaviors.


September 9, 2019

Do you know what causes your anger? It’s possible that you may not understand why you react angrily to some people or events. It can be helpful to monitor the triggers and the frequency of your anger in order to develop strategies to channel it effectively.


September 8, 2019

If you find it difficult to manage your anger, the first thing to do is to be honest with yourself and acknowledge that you have trouble navigating these emotions. We can create solutions only when we can identify the problem.


September 7, 2019

Anger is an emotion depicted by resentment, bitterness, or hatred toward someone or something that we may feel has harmed us or done us wrong. Though anger can be an intense feeling that is difficult to manage, it can also forge an outlet to communicate negative feelings and engage in conflict resolution to solve problems. However, excessive anger can have potentially negative effects that can include health problems, psychological trauma or family violence.


September 6, 2019

Feelings of being entitled to power may be a driving factor for a person to disregard the feelings of their partner. Often, the underlying drive for power can include feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, fear of abandonment and guilt.


September 5, 2019

Anger is a normal emotion, and it only becomes a problem when it occurs too frequently, too intensely, lasts too long and disturbs work or relationships. Understanding the emotion is a foundational step to managing behavior.


September 4, 2019

Those who struggle with violent behavior at home often require counseling in power/control philosophy, accepting consequences and responsibility, and changing behaviors. Those who seek anger management support are likely in need of methods to communicate anger in a healthy manner. In addition to those techniques, both parties can benefit from learning empathy, identifying triggers, developing a plan, using coping skills and calming techniques, and dismantling the distorted thinking process that occurs during episodes of anger and/or violence.


September 3, 2019

The first step to controlling anger is recognizing anger when it’s in the early stages. This offers us the opportunity to manage it while it’s containable. Identifying personal body signals (e.g. chest pains, headaches, tension, dizziness) when angry is important in managing emotions and expressing them in a healthy way.


September 2, 2019

Unprocessed anger can eventually lead to an unexpected explosion. People often don’t realize when they are angry and suddenly become overwhelmed with the intensity of an emotional reaction. The body feels angry before the mind realizes what it is angry about. When emotions are not expressed and acknowledged in a healthy way, there is always a chance of losing control.


September 1, 2019

Observers often attribute family violence to uncontrollable anger. However, many studies suggest that domestic abuse is a strategy to maintain power in a relationship, more than it is about excessive anger.


August 31, 2019

Domestic violence has been a concern in our society for decades. It is an epidemic and affects individuals in every community regardless of sex, socio-economic status, religion or race. 


August 30, 2019

One difference between anger and family violence is that anger can be expressed toward anyone or anything (i.e. people, situations, unmet needs), whereas domestic violence generally occurs within an intimate relationship. Anger can also be expressed in a positive healthy manner, via coping skills assertiveness, problem-solving and conflict resolution, whereas domestic violence is always a problem and is never useful or healthy.


August 29, 2019

When your emotions feel uncontrollable, take a moment to close your eyes and count backward from 10 slowly. This helps diffuse anger to prevent violent reactions.


August 28, 2019

Anger is often a mask for our primary feelings. If we can learn to express our desire for change, our insecurities, sadness or fear in a healthy way, we can better learn to keep our anger under control.


August 27, 2019

According to research, approximately 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a dating partner each year. Additionally, 3 in 4 parents have never talked to their children about domestic violence. It it important to educate children and teens about behaviors that may lead to violence in their relationships in order to avoid danger, when possible, and more importantly, to keep the line of communication open in case they encounter a violent dating partner.


August 26, 2019

Compassion is one of the most crucial elements of the healing process. If someone has experienced or witnessed violence in their home, it is important to let them know that their feelings and emotions are valid and that they are not alone.


August 25, 2019

There are many myths about domestic violence. In explaining the cause of domestic violence, the myths generally focus on blaming the victim or some other factor, such as alcohol, anger or a lack of education. As a result, these myths obscure the batterer’s responsibility for their actions.


August 24, 2019

Many people believe that family violence is limited to remote and rural areas. However, domestic violence has been documented in both rural and urban areas. It is important to know that violence in the home is a problem everywhere if we are to break the cycle and end abuse.


August 23, 2019

Treat other people the way you want to be treated. If you are in disagreement with someone, instead of putting the other person down, show respect by treating the other person the way that you want to be treated.


August 22, 2019

When dealing with feelings of anger, it can often help to put yourself on the same side as the other person. Brainstorm together. Instead of telling the other person what to do, ask him/her to help you come up with a solution.


August 21, 2019

Myths about domestic violence generally blame the victim or some other factor, such as alcohol or anger, for the violence. As a result, these myths divert attention from the actions of the abuser. Domestic violence, however, is intentional conduct. It is critical that all responses to domestic violence share a common understanding of domestic violence and focus on the abuser’s actions.


August 20, 2019

Unprocessed anger can eventually lead to an unexpected explosion. People often don’t realize when they are angry and suddenly become overwhelmed with the intensity of an emotional reaction. When emotions are not expressed and acknowledged in a healthy way, there is always a chance of losing control.


August 19, 2019

More than 15 million children in the United States live in homes in which domestic violence has happened at least once. These children are at greater risk for repeating the cycle as adults by entering into abusive relationships or becoming abusers themselves. 


August 18, 2019

At Kindred Place, we understand that relationships are complicated. When those around us are stressed, frustrated or angry, our brains respond with tension and fear. These emotions can be regulated and navigated in healthy ways, but it requires awareness, patience and participation on both sides.


August 17, 2019

Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, blame, or wound someone. 


August 16, 2019

In a healthy relationship, communication is key. When you can communicate effectively and are able to resolve conflicts successfully, you are strengthening a healthy, mature relationship.


August 15, 2019

If you know or suspect that a family member, friend or work colleague is experiencing domestic violence, it may be difficult to know what to do. It can be hard to know that someone is hurting a person you care about. In these situations, it is helpful to remember that it can take time for someone to recognize they need help. It's important to be patient and give them the space they need to communicate their feelings.


August 14, 2019

When moments of conflict arise, ask to hear the other person's point of view. Offer to listen to the other person first, before explaining your perspective. Sometimes there is simply a misunderstanding.


August 13, 2019

Taking the first step toward seeking help is courageous. Whether you are seeking clinical support as a victim of family violence or seeking anger management education, Kindred Place is here to walk through the process with you.


August 12, 2019

When anger is expressed in healthy ways, it can be a change agent. It can help people problem-solve rather than stagnate. Anger can move people to work through emotions and forgive rather than become bitter. However, it is crucial to find healthy ways to express anger.


August 11, 2019

Sometimes violence begins early on in a relationship, and other times, it takes months or even years to appear. It's important to be aware of behaviors such as jealousy, controlling tendencies, threats or intimidation.


August 10, 2019

People of all genders can be survivors and perpetrators of family violence. Domestic violence has an effect on the community as a whole, and everyone must be part of the solution to break the cycle.


August 9, 2019

If you're struggling to maintain peace in your home, try to start conversations with your children about the important components of healthy relationships. Through your own actions and respect for healthy boundaries, you can appropriately lead your family in conflict resolution.


August 8, 2019

Witnessing violence in the home, school, or community can affect children throughout their entire lives. Having the knowledge and tools to address this trauma is crucial for proper healing and restoration. 


August 7, 2019 

If you're questioning your relationship and feel unsafe, know that you are not alone. Seeking help from a therapist can help end the cycle of abuse and aggression in your life. 


August 6, 2019

Domestic violence is often thought of as being mainly about physical abuse. However, domestic violence can be any behavior used to exert power and control over a person. Types of domestic and family violence include financial abuse, stalking, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, technology abuse, social abuse and more.


August 5, 2019

Kindred Place is a mental health and education resource for families. We offer trauma-focused counseling, group therapy, and classes for adults and children. If you're ready for healing, we're here to help. All of our services are available in English and Spanish.


August 4, 2019 

Children who witness family violence are at risk for both short and long-term harm. Even if they don't see or hear the violence, they can be affected by hearing or seeing the results of the violence. They can have emotional, behavioral and developmental problems. These problems can last a long time if they are not properly addressed.


August 3, 2019 

It's important to understand what intimate partner violence is. Intimate partner violence is violence or abuse that can happen within a marriage or dating relationship, in an opposite-sex or same-sex relationship and at any time during a relationship, including while it is breaking down, or after it has ended.


August 2, 2019 

Family violence includes many different forms of physical and emotional abuse, carried out by family members or intimate partners. It may include a single act of violence or a number of acts that form a pattern of abuse. Family violence doesn't have to be a part of your story. When you're ready for things to change, we're here to help.


August 1, 2019

Domestic violence and abuse stem from a desire to gain and maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abusive people believe they have the right to control and restrict their partners, and they may enjoy the feeling that exerting power gives them. If you believe that you are a victim of abuse, know that you are not alone. Help is available when you're ready.


July 31, 2019

In a healthy relationship, both people want their partner to feel happy, respected and comfortable. If you don’t feel comfortable or safe setting boundaries or your boundaries are not being respected, that can be a red flag for unhealthy or abusive dynamics in the relationship.


July 30, 2019

As great as it is to spend time with your partner, it’s important to have some time away from each other, too. It’s not healthy for either partner to try to set limits or use guilt and pressure to control where their partner goes or who they spend time with. Everyone should feel the freedom to spend time alone or with friends and family without having to get permission from their partner and explain their whereabouts. 


July 29, 2019 

A healthy relationship starts with mutual respect, including respect for each other’s emotional and physical boundaries. Setting boundaries can be an ongoing process in a relationship. It’s important for partners to know each other’s concerns, limits, desires and feelings, and to be prepared to respect them.


July 28, 2019 

People who have never been abused often wonder why a person wouldn’t just leave an abusive relationship. They don’t understand that leaving can be more complicated than it seems. But what we must understand is that leaving is often the most dangerous time for a victim of abuse. When a victim leaves, they are taking control and threatening the abusive partner’s power, which could cause the abusive partner to retaliate in very destructive ways. 


July 27, 2019

Abuse is a choice, and it’s not one that anyone has to make. While outside forces such as drug or alcohol addiction can sometimes escalate abuse, it’s most important to recognize that these issues do not cause abuse.


July 26, 2019 

If you are being abused by your partner, you may feel confused, afraid, angry and trapped. All of these emotions are normal responses to abuse. You might also blame yourself for what is happening. But, no matter what others might say, you are never responsible for your partner’s abusive actions. 


July 25, 2019

You may be in an unhealthy relationship if you and your partner are not communicating when problems arise, your partner has a tendency to lie, or if your finances are not openly discussed and you are not allowed to have financial control. These are all warning signs to be aware of. It's important to understand what resources are available to you and never be afraid to ask for help. 


July 24, 2019

Oftentimes the aggressor in a violent relationship feels a high level of ownership over the other partner, which can result in injury if this person tries to end the relationship. Children can also be harmed by witnessing this violence in their families. If you are in a harmful relationship and need a way out, seeking professional help can allow you to get out safely. 


July 23, 2019

Victims of family violence are often in need of support, community and compassion. If you know someone who is going through a hard time, offer a listening ear. And understand that their decision to stay or leave an abusive situation is theirs, and there are likely multiple factors that you do not understand.


July 22, 2019

Sometimes, we can experience guilt after expressing anger, and it can be hard to determine if we responded in a healthy way. Ask yourself, "Did I speak harshly or with understanding, loudly or calmly, critically or with encouragement?"


July 21, 2019

It is common for abusers to cling to power or self-control. You can help a friend or family member in an abusive relationship by empowering them to make their own decisions.


July 20, 2019

It can be hard to identify family violence in your own life. If you feel like you might be a victim of abuse, tell someone you trust. Letting someone know what you are experiencing can help free you from the cycle of shame and fear.  


July 19, 2019

Family violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent someone from doing what they wish or forcing them to behave in ways they do not want to. Children may be taken advantage of by being forced to relay messages or used by an abuser to threaten a victim.


July 18, 2019 

Homelessness is one of the many causes of domestic abuse. Family violence leads to broken homes across the United States. It's our job to provide healing for these families that are in need. 


July 17, 2019

It is not uncommon for an abuse victim to remain silent. Encouraging those around you who you know are suffering can help them receive the help they need and can prevent further damage and harm.


July 16, 2019

It's important to understand how abuse affects all areas of a victim's life. Individuals who experience violence are less likely to function properly in a professional environment which can lead to low job security.


July 15, 2019

Pregnant women who are in relationship with a physically violent partner poses a dangerous risk. Physical stress that a mother takes on can cause harm or death to an unborn child. 


July 14, 2019

Children who are raised in environments where domestic violence is taking place are unlikely to recognize the habits they picked up, which can lead to them repeating these same behaviors as adults. Breaking the cycle of these behaviors takes someone intervening on their behalf. 


July 13, 2019 

Abuse can take place in many types of relationships and at times it can be hard to identify. Just because you can't see what's happening on the outside, does not mean you fully understand what happens behind closed doors. Pay attention to any suspicion you may have and ask individuals if they need help when appropriate. 


July 12, 2019

One way to control your emotions is by creating a safety plan. You can replace your reactions with new responses to keep anger at a manageable and healthy level. This plan could include taking a time-out, taking deep breaths or using a relaxation method, being emotionally honest, talking more slowly and quietly and using positive self-talk.


July 11, 2019

When you’re feeling upset, take a moment to identify your behavioral signs of anger in order to maintain control. You may find yourself speaking loudly, being sarcastic, ignoring or being silent, or displaying threatening postures. These are all signs of anger. Acknowledging these feelings can help you maintain control and prevent you from lashing out.


July 10, 2019

The road to healing is one that is not easily traveled, but it is worth the peace that awaits at the end. Efforts to prevent domestic violence from happening again requires a clear understanding of the factors that contribute to family violence, attaining resources and fostering and initiating change in individuals, families, and society.


July 9, 2019

Domestic violence victims are faced with emotional distress, while children who experience violence at a young age can carry these long-lasting effects with them for a long time. These effects are substantial and should be taken seriously. Seeking help can allow you to experience the healing your family needs.


July 8, 2019

Education and awareness are key components in breaking the cycle of abuse in families. It takes community members to intervene, provide resources and offer support for friends and family that have encountered family violence.


July 7, 2019

Our Comprehensive Anger Management Program provides emotional regulation and/or life skills for children, teens and adults using evidence-based curriculum and crafted content for any age. Learn more about this program here.


July 6, 2019 

Anger is normal and it is an emotion everyone feels. However, it’s important to recognize this emotion in the early stages to avoid over-reacting and lashing out with violent behavior.


July 5, 2019

Family violence can cause physical and psychological harm. When it is not addressed, it can pass from one generation to the next. Some children who experience family violence become violent adolescents and feel that their world need to be controlled.


July 4, 2019

Family violence can manifest in many forms, but it’s important to understand that all forms of family violence are unacceptable. If you are dealing with this type of trauma know that it’s ok to ask for help. It's never too late for healing to occur. 


July 3, 2019

When children witness abuse or trauma, they are more likely to develop behavioral problems later in life. At Kindred Place, we believe in addressing family trauma through therapy. We help guide your children as they learn how to communicate their experiences. Getting to the root of the trauma in a safe environment promotes peace and healing within the entire family unit.


July 2, 2019

Unfair blame is frequently put upon the victim of abuse because of assumptions that victims choose to stay in abusive relationships. The truth is, bringing an end to abuse is not a matter of the victim choosing to leave; it is a matter of the victim being able to safely escape their abuser, the abuser choosing to stop the abuse, or others holding the abuser accountable for the abuse they inflict.


July 1, 2019

What may start out as something that was first believed to be harmless can quickly escalate into extreme control and abuse. These patterns of controlling behavior are not something to ignore. If you feel unsafe or trapped in a relationship, reach out to someone you trust for help.


June 30, 2019

Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. This widespread issue affects people communities right here in our city, and it’s our job to be there for anyone who needs help. 


June 29, 2019

The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary. However, the one constant component of domestic violence is one partner’s consistent efforts to maintain power and control over the other. Take note of this warning sign and ask for help if you feel that your relationship is dangerous.


June 28, 2019

Domestic violence can manifest in many different ways. It includes behaviors that physically harm, bring about fear and prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want to. It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. 


June 27, 2019

It’s important that we learn how to talk about family violence. Part of helping a victim feel understood and heard is knowing which questions to ask and how to listen with empathy.


June 26, 2019

Abusive relationships may involve blame-shifting, isolation and manipulation. If you notice any of these warning signs in your own relationship, it’s safe to speak up and ask for help.


June 25, 2019

When you start to feel out of control of your emotions, take a moment to close your eyes and count backward from 10 slowly. Slowing down can help you diffuse anger and prevent a violent response.


June 24, 2019

Myths about domestic violence generally blame the victim or some other factor, such as alcohol or anger, for the violence. Domestic violence is intentional conduct. It is critical that all responses to domestic violence share a common understanding of domestic violence and focus on abuser’s actions.


June 23, 2019

Instead of blaming the other person for a problem you’re having, identify the problem and try to find a resolution. Often, once you separate the problem from the person, you both realize that the problem can be solved.


June 22, 2019

In most cases family violence happens within the home. It might not be obvious that someone is a victim of abuse, but keep in mind that you don't know what is happening behind closed doors.


June 21, 2019

Children who witness family violence are more likely to abuse their own partners and children when they become adults. Helping your children seek professional counseling when they are young can prevent the cycle of abuse from happening in their own lives.


June 20, 2019

Survivors of family violence face high rates of depression, sleep disturbances, anxiety, flashbacks, and other emotional distress. Seeking professional counseling or talking to someone you trust can help you heal from these mental health problems.


June 19, 2019

Many cases of family violence are never reported. If you sense that someone is staying silent about abuse and seems afraid to speak up, show them you are ready to listen when they are ready to share.


June 18, 2019

There are many signs of an abusive relationship, and a fear of your partner is the most telling. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around them or constantly watch what you say, you may be experiencing a form of abuse.


June 17, 2019

While physical injury may pose the most obvious danger in abusive relationships, the emotional consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression and make you feel alone. No one should have to endure this kind of pain.

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